How to Recover & Destress from well LIFE!

Life can feel damn hard some days. The responsibilities we have to take care of, the needs of other people that need to be met. The cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, and somehow trying to find time to care for ourselves can feel just down right exhausting. By the end of the day we just want to flop down on the bed to just get a good night’s sleep and yet sleep practically eludes us because our damn minds just won’t shut down. 

Before we know it the alarm is going off & it’s time to get up and do it all over again. 

Stress is one of those things that are body does need, however, most of us are giving our bodies more than its fair share of it. We live in a world where there is just so much pressure placed on us from other people and ourselves. Especially right now because the holidays are here.  While holidays are supposed to me a joyous time for us, it tends to be the opposite. There is a lot of pressure to buy all of the presents, give every one and their brother a gift. Bake cookies, wrap the presents, go to the holiday parties, be joyous and happy and giving and thankful and yet all we want to do is really just pull our damn hair out of our heads and scream at the top of our lungs. 

I totally get it. Stress is one of those things that I personally don’t handle well at all. It can feel down right overwhelming and can leave us feeling depleted, anxious, hopeless, worthless, and just like we aren’t doing enough in our lives. Some days when I have just had it all I want to do is go lie in my bed, pull those covers up over my head, and just close my eyes wishing for it to all go away. 

And while some days this might feel like the very best option, let’s face it, it’s really not. So today I want to share with you some tips on how to recover and destress to help your body, mood, and overall view of life! 


Ideas for Promoting Recovery and Decreasing Stress

  1. Take up an enjoyable hobby (at least once weekly): This could be anything. You’ll not only get some time to focus on something that brings you joy, but you’ll also be around people whose company you enjoy (well, most likely).

 

  1. Volunteer once per week: This will likely increase the time you spend around people whose company you enjoy. Plus, you’ll be living according to your values, which always provides a nice dose of goodness.

 

  1. Get a regular massage every few weeks, or on your own preferred schedule.

 

  1. Take ownership of your situation: Acknowledge what role you play in how your life is organized.

 

  1. Spend time outside daily.

 

  1. Set limits on screen time: Yes, this means not constantly checking emails, texting, and reviewing social media.

 

  1. Meditate / pray / quietly reflect (any word you prefer) as often as possible.

 

  1. Include low impact movement (e.g., yoga, walking, biking, hiking) daily. Walk to get your groceries. Bike to the gym. And so on.

 

  1. Gain perspective: Step back and think about your entire life, then consider how today’s stressor fit into the big picture.

 

  1. Practice being alone: Turn off your phone and go somewhere. Maybe out to dinner, a movie, a play, or on a hike. You are with yourself always and forever. The more we can learn to enjoy our own company, the better.

 

  1. Take deep breaths, focusing especially on a long out-breath: This immediately calms your stress response.

 

  1. Practice gratitude: This might mean a daily journal. Or maybe a weekly letter to someone you appreciate.

 

Try a mind body scan: Find a quiet place with no distractions. Sit or lie down. Set a time, for 5 minutes if you like. Start at the top of your head, and slowly go down to your toes. Notice all physical sensations: hot / cold, itchy, tense, etc. Observe, don’t judge. You can do this anywhere, at any time, in order to slow down and calm your body.

 

  • Question 1: What are you feeling, physically?
  • Question 2: What are you feeling, emotionally?
  • Question 3: What are you thinking?
  • Question 4: Based on this scan, what have you learned about yourself today?

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What Learning to Ride a Bike & Weight loss Have in Common

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s hard to be a beginner isn’t it? It’s uncomfortable, frustrating and pushes us to limits that make us just want to quit.

We honestly get so used to just knowing things as an adult that we have this mindset that every time we go to do whatever it is we set our minds to, that it’s just going to happen with little effort behind it.

I’ve come to realize lately that being an adult we tend to become complacent. WE have our routines and schedules and we just go with it pretty much every day.

But as a child it was totally different. I remember learning to ride my bike. It felt scary, but exciting at the same time. Each day I would get on that bike and go a little farther. Before I realized it, I was able to just jump on and go.

It was the exact same when the training wheels came off and I had to learn to ride that bike without the training wheels.

Learning to ride a bike takes practice. We have to practice the thing that’s new to us over and over again until we master that skill.

Weight loss and being healthy is the same as riding a bike; it’s a skill that we have to practice in order to master it.

Why? Because it’s something that’s new to us. That’s why we need to lose weight right? Because while we have all these other reasons as to why we want to lose the weight, it’s a skill we actually don’t possess yet. If it was, we wouldn’t need to be losing the weight in the first place because we would already know the tools that kept the weight off in the first place.

Yes, losing weight is really frustrating. It’s uncomfortable. It pushes us to those limits where we aren’t sure if we should even continue because we believe that we don’t have what it takes.

But so was riding that bike. But it felt different though right? Because as a child, we aren’t complacent. We don’t have our daily routines where we just get up and DO. We get up and see what we are about to learn for a day. Because as a child we are constantly curious and always learning.

Losing weight is more about learning than it is just doing. So before we get to the just doing part, we have to PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE so we get good enough to master that weight loss and we are no longer the beginner.

Just like learning to ride that bike.


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In order to truly succeed with weightless, we have to learn to keep it simple

There is so much information in the health and fitness world that it really is no wonder that so many believe it is hard and complicated and just down right achievable.

There are many rules that are said that have to be followed. There are certain foods that we are to eat and certain exercises that we are to do in order to lose weight and get toned up.  We have to work out a certain amount of times a week for a certain length of time. We can eat this and not eat that. We can drink this but not drink that.

I could go on and on about this but I think that you get my point.  It’s complicated, hard, exhausting, and can actually feel somewhat miserable as well. Totally get it. Just writing all of this makes my mind spin a thousand different ways.

When I first started out on my own health and fitness journey I began counting calories. I downloaded the myfitnesspal app and I tracked everything I ate. I didn’t change my food at first, I was just watching my portions and worked to hit the target calorie count each day. Once that just wasn’t working any longer I then began to count my macros. So I weighed and measured my food and focused more on the quality of foods I was eating. Then I switched to working to eating intuitively and listening to my body. Then I worked on eating certain foods in moderation in conjunction with eating healthy.  

I went from working out for 10 minutes a day to 2 hours every day.  Then I worked out at home and did workout dvds and chose to do 30 minutes 7 days a week.

This is just a small snippet of my own journey but the point I want to make is that i would follow program after program. I would follow what other people said for me to follow and what was working for them. And while each plan did give me some progress at the time I followed it, it still felt really hard and complicated.  I often wondered if I was doing enough and doing it right. I would feel awful if I skipped a workout or didn’t eat a healthy meal at one point.

I thought at the time that the problem was me. But it really wasn’t. The problem lies in the fact that it feels as though we have to do all of the things at one time. It’s a feeling that I have personally had, and also what I have personally seen within my own clients.

We all tend to think we have to do all of it right now in order to lose weight. But that really isn’t true. We have to remember that we are working on changing years and years of habits that we did consistently in order to gain the weight. And just because we make the decision to change our life and make it a healthier one doesn’t mean it is all going to happen right now.

We showed up every day doing the same habits consistently that led us to the weight gain, so we have to show up every day doing the same habits consistently that are going to help us lose the weight.

It’s the same formula, just reversed to get a different result.   

And it has to be simplified; meaning that it has to be ridiculously simple and feel easy to us. It has to be attainable and fit within our life instead of us fitting our life around it.

The only way this is going to really work and stick is if we work to build a plan that fits within our unique life and lifestyle. And since we are all so different and come from different places and experiences, that is going to look somewhat different for each and every single one of us.

So how do we work to do this?  We pick ONE THING. And then show up each day and do that one thing for an entire month. I promise that by the end of that month we aren’t even going to be thinking about it. We will just automatically do it because we have created a habit.

There are many different things that we can choose. Sometimes my clients choose drinking water every single day. Some choose to eat a serving of veggies every day. Others just work to get movement in their daily life and not spend so much time on the couch.

There really is no right or wrong choice here. The power lies in the fact that we can have control over what we are choosing to do.  While we like to be told what to do in this area, we also like to feel like we have control and are also making a choice.   And because we like to see the steps in print and fully wrap our minds around what we need to do, here is how to simplify nutrition to make it stick and actually lose weight for good.

Step 1: Pick ONE healthy habit to do every single day (like drink water, eat veggies, eat protein, etc).

Step 2: Show up every single day and perform that ONE task. Write it down to track your progress on a notebook or calendar!

Step 3: At the end of the month take a look at your notebook or calendar and see how well you did!

Seriously that is it. Just 3 steps to get you going on your goals! I promise you will be so focused on showing up every day to do your task that the weight is going to just come off on it’s on!


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How I reversed 24 years of hating my body

I spent a good amount of my life hating my body.

I clearly remember the first time I looked at my body and felt ashamed of how it looked.

I was 11. And in 5th grade.

I had hit puberty and experienced some weight gain from it. It was the year I also started my period.   That happened at school nonetheless.

All my friends at the time hadn’t started theirs yet. And They were also thin. And tall. And so very pretty.

They all had boyfriends. They all had the cutest clothes.

And then there was me.

BEing 11 years old seemed to be a turning point in my life. But not in a positive way.

I had pimples on my face.

I had gained weight.

I was bleeding once a month.

And to top if of, I was wearing clothes that my mom had made for me.

There isn’t anything wrong with any of these things. But for an 11 year old girl? It was the end of the world.

According to my peers that is.

From that year on I was constantly reminded how I wasn’t enough-

Pretty enough

Rich enough

Thin enough

Good enough

I spent a good amount of years after this fighting against judgements and labels that were place on me from others.

And I believed them for many years actually.

And the thing is? I never felt this way or cared about it until others point it out to me constantly.

But it was such an impact that it stayed with me until I was 35 years old.

So how did I reverse 24 years of the belief that I wasn’t

Pretty enough

Rich enough

Thin enough

Good enough?

I had to work to flip the script.  Mindset is so important to our overall well being. Our thoughts that we believe are the actions that we put into play.

So I journaled. I read self-help books. I listened to podcasts. I took in perspective from those who struggled with this very thing.

And I slowly changed the way I thought about myself. So I would feel pretty enough, rich enough, thin enough,and good enough.

Because we can eat healthy and exercise perfectly.

But if we are constantly believing our body is disgusting and we aren’t good enough, then we are never going to be satisfied and we will always end up failing with our goals.


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The Only Thing Standing Between You & Your Goals

 

 

 

We can share our excuses all day long as to why we haven’t lost the weight & achieved the body changes we seek.

But at the end of the day these excuses are just another layer we hide behind.

We are the only ones who can achieve these goals. No one else can do it for us.

We can hire the most famous personal trainer in the world, the most world renowned nutritionist & have a meal & exercise plan created that has been used by the most beautiful bodies in the world.

But if we don’t believe that we have what it takes to implement these very tools, we aren’t going to get anywhere.

We are just going to remain in the same place where wishes and hopes and dreams die all because of the one thing that holds us back;

Believing the thought that we aren’t capable of achieving such success.

So how does one break through the bullshit & start realizing their potential?

We begin telling ourselves the SAME loving words & encouragement that we provide to the most loved people in our lives.  

Take a moment to imagine how our loved ones would feel if we looked right at them & said they weren’t capable of achieving their personal goals because they weren’t worthy of having such things?

Then how in turn would this make us feel to say such a thing to someone we loved so very much? It would makes us feel awful wouldn’t it?

That’s exactly how our souls feel when our minds tells us these thoughts.

The Woman Who Wears the Size 6 Jeans…

 

 

The reality is that all women, regardless of the size of jeans they wear, know exactly what it feels like to think they are fat & ugly & worthless.

Because the way we feel? Is the same as what another one feels as we are never alone in our personal struggles.

We tend to look at a woman who is smaller than we are and instantly think that she is happy; that she believes she is the most beautiful woman in the world & that she never has any struggles or depressed days. That she wakes up every single morning & slips on her clothes feeling fabulous. There is no way she cries in her room because of the reflection that stares right back at her in the mirror.

But this reality? Isn’t the true reality. It is only the stories that we tell ourselves because we want to BE HER.

But the truth of the matter is that regardless of the size of the jeans, we are one in the same. There are plenty of women who wear a size 6 pair of jeans and believe they are fat just like the woman who wears the size 18. Both believe that they are ugly and worthless and don’t deserve happiness.

Because self-esteem issues are not reserved for those who only wear a “certain size of jeans.”

It’s more about the love and belief that we have for ourselves. And if we believe we are fat and ugly and worthless and don’t deserve to live a happy life unless we weight a certain amount or we wear a certain size pair of clothes; have thinner thighs a plumper tush, a smaller waist, abs, etc, then we are not going to be happy nor give ourselves permission to live our life to the fullest until we reach these personal wishes.

It’s totally cliche but it’s true; we must NEVER judge a book by it’s cover.

We must never assume anything about anyone based on what we see as what we see is only a perception of what we believe in our own minds. At the end of the day we can look at a woman smaller than us and think “man what it must be like to be HER!”  

When in reality, she may very well be living in the same reality as we are. Because at the end of the day? We are all women who are battling the same struggles day in and day out. Size never discriminates who gets to struggle and who doesn’t, because we all do. 

 

How All or Nothing is Failing Us

 

We have our workout clothes ready to go. Our meals are all prepared in different containers and stacked up in the fridge. We are geared up and soooo ready to tackle this weight loss gig.

It feels so exciting to finally feel motivated to get to work on this weight loss.

First week goes really well. We get all the workouts in from our program. We have eaten all of our healthy meals. We totally avoided office donut Wednesday and Family Pizza Friday like a champ!

We totally got this thing!

Week 2 goes the same way. We are totally killing this journey!  We are motivated and feeling energized. We feel lighter already!

Week 3 approaches and life happens. We have to stay late at work. We didn’t get the bonus we were hoping for so we had to go without paying a bill so we could make another payment which only leaves a little money left for food (how are we even going to buy our all organic produce now?).

As the week goes on we are hardly sleeping due to the stress and worry. Office donut Wednesday we have 3 donuts while sitting at our desk because no one can see us eat these as we have been on a diet. Thursday we sneak in the kitchen while everyone is in bed and we get the cookies that were meant for a party this weekend at our friend’s house. Friday rolls around and we don’t have time to fix breakfast so we go through McDonald’s for that bacon egg and cheese biscuit meal with a large Coke because this week?  This week has been hell. We are stressed and tired. We haven’t eaten maybe but a couple of our salads this week and have felt so tired we didn’t get our workouts in.

Then the feelings start to settle in. We feel like a failure because we didn’t meal prep and eat healthy for every single meal. We feel ashamed because we didn’t get in our schedule workouts on the program.   And we are totally not going to even mention the donuts, cookies, and pizza. We already know we gained like 30 lbs just from this week.

We feel like a failure. We feel like should of had our shit together but instead we don’t. We look around at the other people who were doing the program too and they are all killing it. One gal even said she lost 15 lbs by week 2.  We knew it was too good to be true.

That’s it. We quit. We are just destined to be fat and weigh this much forever. It’s hopeless.  I don’t even know why I try.

Sound familiar?   

THIS IS THE ALL OR NOTHING APPROACH; THIS IS THE ALL OR NOTHING MINDSET.

This was me for so many years. I would join a gym. I would buy the latest workout program I saw on an infomercial. I would try a brand new diet I read about that all my friends were doing too.

Ever single time the same thing would happen over and over again. I would start out strong hitting all the points I was supposed to based on the plan. And then at some point life would hit. And I didn’t know how to maneuver around it. I thought at the time that I had to be perfect. I had to do all the workouts and eat every single meal clean.  I had to say away from all the “bad” food on the list because if I would even have some of it I was going to gain weight instantly.

I tried for years and years to lose weight as I had first gained weight back when I was 22 years old. A few months before I had met my now husband. We then moved in together and I quit smoking. There was a lot of stress going on at that time and I was eating horribly. Some nights me and him would sit on the couch and eat an extra large pizza from Cassanos watching a movie while I washed it down with soda. And I totally wasn’t exercising.   But each and every time I would start a new diet and/or workout program, I would start out strong, but then I would always end up right back to where I began. And I would totally quit.

So here is what I learned from all those years of that damn diet cycle, and how it became different for me when I decided back in December 2013 that this was it and the weight was going to freaking come off.

I learned that going all in and trying to be perfect is insane. We think we have to do this but that couldn’t be further from the truth. This kind of thinking is what has been ingrained in our own minds from the health and fitness industry.

We are honestly already setting ourselves up to fail. We are expecting ourselves to do things that are all so brand new. We have been doing certain habits for years and years and years that caused our weight gain, and yet we are expecting things to magically change for us because we made the decision to start this. And because we made this decision, we think things are going to change instantly. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Here is the truth. Small changes are what adds up over time. We don’t gain weight when we eat one donut or have pizza on a Friday night with the family. We don’t have to exercise every single day.  Slow and steady actually does win the race, not when we sprint.

Because we when Sprint? We tire out pretty quickly. And no matter how hard we push, at some point we are going to quit before we get to the finish line because we signed up for this race without any time to train for it.  I mean, just because we made the decision to run a race without ever running in our life doesn’t instantly make us a runner and the runner who wins the race, right?

Weight loss is the same. We have to show up daily yes, but tackling small goals within that day (like drinking water every time we eat. Eating some veggies at each meal. Going to bed at a decent hour.) Every day we show up and we practice. And we get better and better as we go. And before we know it, we are seeing some awesome progress and suddenly the results are showing up!

Why does this work? Because instead of focusing on the goal of losing X amount of weight we are instead focusing on what we have to do in our day to make a change instead. We switch the focus and tackle one thing at a time whether that would be exercise twice a week, or drinking water instead of soda.

And because we show up every single day for it, the return is that our results happen without us even really trying.  Let that sink in for a bit. Doesn’t that sound lovely?  To get results.

And the best part? We can totally start today. Pick one thing, get super good at it for a month, and then choose something else. It all adds up. And at some point? We will have created a habit without even really thinking about creating the habit. And the weight? It totally comes off as a result of it.


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WHAT HAPPENED WHEN I WENT FROM BEING MY LAST PRIORITY TO MY FIRST

I have always been the gal that put everyone else’s needs before mine.  Mostly due to acceptance back in my younger days, but when I got older it was more of the nurturing instinct in me.

Plus, this is what I always saw my own mother do; with her kids and my dad.

So I really never thought to take time out for myself or my own needs.

Once I became a wife, and then a mother, I automatically just put their needs ahead of my own.

 

Know what happened?  I was worn out. I was tired. I was irritated. I felt taken advantage of and I felt that no one cared about me and my needs.

Why was I constantly making sure they were taken care of and all was well in their world when no one cared to do the same for me?

Because I never asked for help.

See, I made this choice. I chose to take care of everyone else around me. And by the time I would consider it was time to take care of me, well, I was too exhausted and just didn’t have enough energy left.

 

So one day back in 2013, I decided that this just couldn’t go on. Not any longer. I was unhappy, severely obese, struggling with my anxiety and depression even while taking medication for it.  I felt unworthy, unloved, and uncared for.

And because of all of this, I really wasn’t caring for my loved ones in the manner that they deserved to be cared for.

Why? Because I was not giving them the best of me. Instead, they were getting the rest of me, the me that was struggling; the me that was tired, irritable, distant, & pushing all of my struggles and feelings to the side the best I could (which obviously didn’t work one bit!)

So how is one supposed to begin taking care of herself as this was all brand new territory?

 

I just took it one step at a time.

Aside from focusing on my caloric intake (as this was also when I decided to make changes so I could lose weight) I began to journal again daily.

I have kept a diary/journal since I received my very first diary at age 11. It was a Christmas Gift from my parents and it smelled just like baby powder on the pages. It’s cover was so pretty and it was pink with pink colored pages (I still have this actually. It’s pages are totally filled at this point however it holds so much from my young life that I just couldn’t part with it. So it’s in a container with High School Memorabilia).

 

Writing my thoughts down on paper was always the most freeing and relaxing task I did. It was the place where I could be completely open; free from judgement. It’s the only place where I could be super vulnerable & totally exposed.

And the only place where I could free my mind from all the thoughts that rested inside of it.

 

I knew that before I could begin to heal & to realize the true reality of the situation, I needed to get it out of my head and onto paper.

And while I did journal from time to time over the years, it wasn’t a daily occurance because I didn’t take the time out of my day to do it.

So I made time.

 

I just spent 5 to 10 minutes each day writing down all of my thoughts in my journal. I didn’t have any rhyme or reason to it, I just allowed the thoughts to flow from my mind, through the pen, onto the paper.

Know what began to happen?  I started to feel better. I started to see how I was feeling and it made me truly think of how I could make the changes so that I could be happier.

I began to feel less irritable and less stressed.

 

This showed me that just taking a bit of time out for me daily was what I had needed. It wasn’t selfish. My husband and daughter didn’t receive any less care from me. In fact, they received more because I took the time to fill up my own cup.

As I write this my self care looks a lot different as I spend more time and do many different things. It just depends on how I am feeling & what I believe I need to do at that time.

But one thing has remained constant, and that is the journaling. I begin each day writing down 3 things that I am grateful for; any thoughts that are plaguing me as well as an emotional and physical check-in.   It’s one of those things that has evolved since I began doing this those 4 years ago, but the reason behind it is still the same.

Because in order to be able to truly care for those that we love the most in this life, we must first give ourselves the same love and care.  Because our loved ones deserve to have the very best of us.


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The First Step to Begin Weight Loss

Weight loss always feels like the most daunting task doesn’t it? Especially when it isn’t just a mere 10 lbs we were looking to lose.

 

We are looking to lost at least 50 lbs or more.  And with it being such a big number?  Goodness it can feel so damn overwhelming. More like suffocating actually. So much so that we honestly just begin to think why are we even bothering to lose the weight at all because I mean, what’s the point?

 

I can’t even begin to tell you the amount of times I have felt this way.  In fact, I just recently had someone share this with me the other day that because they have so much weight to actually lose it just felt hopeless to them to even try.

 

The thing is we all have a choice.  We have the choice to put in the work and do what we need to do, or just accept what is and move on with living life as we have. Yes big goals and change can certainly feel overwhelming and suffocating. It can make us feel like we don’t even need to bother and wonder how are we even going to jump over the amount of hurdles it is going to take in order to reach our goals.

 

But the problem with looking at the big picture and focusing on the end result is that we don’t even begin to put any sort of plan in place; like actual steps that are going to get us to that point. Sure, we want to lose weight. But it isn’t just something that we decide we want to do, make a few changes, and Poof!  We lose the weight.

 

There are actionable steps that we actually have to take, ever single day, in order to reach the end goal. So while we know we want to arrive at the end, we have to put that focus back on the beginning and where we are in this moment of our lives, and then create a daily task list of actions we are going to take each and every single day.

 

Because losing weight is the same as anything else we want.

 

For example, we want to go to the store this weekend to pick up groceries. Such a simple task right?  But we do have to take steps in order to get the groceries (groceries being our end goal here)

 

So what is the first thing we need in order to get groceries?  Money, right?  We have to have money to buy the food. So the first thing we need to do is go to work. We go to work daily to put in the time so we can get our paycheck that comes on Friday.  So each day we get up early, get showered and dressed, get in the car, and drive to work. We then go into our place of employment and then we do the daily tasks for that day in order to put in the work so we can get paid for our time. Getting paid for our time gives us the money we need to buy the food.  Now we have to do this every day until Friday to get our paycheck.

So in order to get groceries (our end goal) our first step is to get MONEY to buy the food.

 

So our first step to get groceries? Get Money

 

In order to get money, We then take daily steps to get the money. Daily steps gets us the money on Friday and then the money gets us groceries.

 

If all we focus on is getting the groceries so we can eat and not breaking down the steps we need to do in order to get those groceries is pretty much going to leave us hungry.

 

And while getting groceries is a just a part of our adult life, it is still an end goal in our life. Getting groceries isn’t one of those things that every person “just” does. If it was, there wouldn’t be human beings wondering from day to day when their next meal was going to be.

My point is that we really need to simplify the process. To the point where it just is ridiculously simple actually.

And while I realize it is easier said than done, always choosing to take the easy way out and just never do it or just quit because we are not getting to that end goal quick enough really isn’t doing our life any favors.

I don’t know about you, but I spent way too many years quitting and giving up and wanting to just take the easy way out. But I owned the fact that I had a choice and so I chose to make the change and work on it daily in order to reach my goal; no matter how long it was going to take.

Because bottom line it’s all about CHOICE.


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Comparison is a Trap

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I wish that I could tell you that this lifestyle was easy.  I wish that I could tell you that once you embark on this journey and lose some weight and get going with your food and workouts that it will be a breeze from there.

 

But this couldn’t be farther from the truth.  

 

While the hardest part is past us, next comes the part where we work to make sure this is how we roll for a lifetime.  

 

And I don’t say this to deter us; I say this because it is important that this is told to those who are working on this.

 

So many times we see these really fit people on social media who seem like they have their shit altogether all the time; that they just seemed to have found the secret sauce where they are going to just remain healthy and fit for life.

 

But no matter how far we go, we still have to consistently show up every day.  We have to continue to choose healthier choices and get our bodies moving on the daily,

 

Even when we feel like all we want to do is curl up on the couch with our spoon and favorite Ben & Jerry’s ice cream and binge watch some Netflix.

 

And while I am an absolute HUGE proponent of doing this from time to time, there does come a time where this is very well what we may want to do all the time. So this is where we have to certainly dig deep, take a deep breath, and remember why we pursued this whole gig in the first place.

And those people that we see all the time?  They are most certainly dealing with this themselves.  They don’t always want to workout, eat healthy, prep for the week, go to the grocery store, etc.

 

And most are never going to admit this to us because what is shown on social media is exactly what they want us to see.

 

Which is always the point.

 

So before we start comparing ourselves to these people feeling like we are such frauds and that the feelings we are having about this lifestyle we are creating is totally not the most normal thing on the planet, but guess what?

 

It totally is.  Why??  Because we are all human beings.

 

All we are seeing is the highlight reel.  We don’t know what goes on behind the scenes.  It is just a snapshot of one moment in this person’s life.

 

So keep your head up mama.  We are all in this together and everything that we are personally struggling with?  Someone else is personally struggling with this too.

 

Don’t give up.  Keep moving forward, keep being consistent, and learn to enjoy this process.

 

If I was able to do it and keep going, so can you. 🙂