Try a mind body scan: Find a quiet place with no distractions. Sit or lie down. Set a time, for 5 minutes if you like. Start at the top of your head, and slowly go down to your toes. Notice all physical sensations: hot / cold, itchy, tense, etc. Observe, don’t judge. You can do this anywhere, at any time, in order to slow down and calm your body.
Because in order to be able to truly care for those that we love the most in this life, we must first give ourselves the same love and care. Because our loved ones deserve to have the very best of us.
Weight loss always feels like the most daunting task doesn’t it? Especially when it isn’t just a mere 10 lbs we were looking to lose.
We are looking to lost at least 50 lbs or more. And with it being such a big number? Goodness it can feel so damn overwhelming. More like suffocating actually. So much so that we honestly just begin to think why are we even bothering to lose the weight at all because I mean, what’s the point?
I can’t even begin to tell you the amount of times I have felt this way. In fact, I just recently had someone share this with me the other day that because they have so much weight to actually lose it just felt hopeless to them to even try.
The thing is we all have a choice. We have the choice to put in the work and do what we need to do, or just accept what is and move on with living life as we have. Yes big goals and change can certainly feel overwhelming and suffocating. It can make us feel like we don’t even need to bother and wonder how are we even going to jump over the amount of hurdles it is going to take in order to reach our goals.
But the problem with looking at the big picture and focusing on the end result is that we don’t even begin to put any sort of plan in place; like actual steps that are going to get us to that point. Sure, we want to lose weight. But it isn’t just something that we decide we want to do, make a few changes, and Poof! We lose the weight.
There are actionable steps that we actually have to take, ever single day, in order to reach the end goal. So while we know we want to arrive at the end, we have to put that focus back on the beginning and where we are in this moment of our lives, and then create a daily task list of actions we are going to take each and every single day.
Because losing weight is the same as anything else we want.
For example, we want to go to the store this weekend to pick up groceries. Such a simple task right? But we do have to take steps in order to get the groceries (groceries being our end goal here)
So what is the first thing we need in order to get groceries? Money, right? We have to have money to buy the food. So the first thing we need to do is go to work. We go to work daily to put in the time so we can get our paycheck that comes on Friday. So each day we get up early, get showered and dressed, get in the car, and drive to work. We then go into our place of employment and then we do the daily tasks for that day in order to put in the work so we can get paid for our time. Getting paid for our time gives us the money we need to buy the food. Now we have to do this every day until Friday to get our paycheck.
So in order to get groceries (our end goal) our first step is to get MONEY to buy the food.
So our first step to get groceries? Get Money
In order to get money, We then take daily steps to get the money. Daily steps gets us the money on Friday and then the money gets us groceries.
If all we focus on is getting the groceries so we can eat and not breaking down the steps we need to do in order to get those groceries is pretty much going to leave us hungry.
And while getting groceries is a just a part of our adult life, it is still an end goal in our life. Getting groceries isn’t one of those things that every person “just” does. If it was, there wouldn’t be human beings wondering from day to day when their next meal was going to be.
My point is that we really need to simplify the process. To the point where it just is ridiculously simple actually.
And while I realize it is easier said than done, always choosing to take the easy way out and just never do it or just quit because we are not getting to that end goal quick enough really isn’t doing our life any favors.
I don’t know about you, but I spent way too many years quitting and giving up and wanting to just take the easy way out. But I owned the fact that I had a choice and so I chose to make the change and work on it daily in order to reach my goal; no matter how long it was going to take.
Because bottom line it’s all about CHOICE.
I wish that I could tell you that this lifestyle was easy. I wish that I could tell you that once you embark on this journey and lose some weight and get going with your food and workouts that it will be a breeze from there.
But this couldn’t be farther from the truth.
While the hardest part is past us, next comes the part where we work to make sure this is how we roll for a lifetime.
And I don’t say this to deter us; I say this because it is important that this is told to those who are working on this.
So many times we see these really fit people on social media who seem like they have their shit altogether all the time; that they just seemed to have found the secret sauce where they are going to just remain healthy and fit for life.
But no matter how far we go, we still have to consistently show up every day. We have to continue to choose healthier choices and get our bodies moving on the daily,
Even when we feel like all we want to do is curl up on the couch with our spoon and favorite Ben & Jerry’s ice cream and binge watch some Netflix.
And while I am an absolute HUGE proponent of doing this from time to time, there does come a time where this is very well what we may want to do all the time. So this is where we have to certainly dig deep, take a deep breath, and remember why we pursued this whole gig in the first place.
And those people that we see all the time? They are most certainly dealing with this themselves. They don’t always want to workout, eat healthy, prep for the week, go to the grocery store, etc.
And most are never going to admit this to us because what is shown on social media is exactly what they want us to see.
Which is always the point.
So before we start comparing ourselves to these people feeling like we are such frauds and that the feelings we are having about this lifestyle we are creating is totally not the most normal thing on the planet, but guess what?
It totally is. Why?? Because we are all human beings.
All we are seeing is the highlight reel. We don’t know what goes on behind the scenes. It is just a snapshot of one moment in this person’s life.
So keep your head up mama. We are all in this together and everything that we are personally struggling with? Someone else is personally struggling with this too.
Don’t give up. Keep moving forward, keep being consistent, and learn to enjoy this process.
If I was able to do it and keep going, so can you. 🙂